How to solve the issue with my Parents?

My father gave me the cheapest possible school education to me which charges 20Rs per year with poor infrastructure. He was earning a high income but refused to give an education in a good school. Also, I scored high marks in school final exams and requested my father to admit me to an engineering degree however he refused to do that and send me to an art college that charges a very less fee compared to engg colleges. Both of my brothers scored much lesser than me, to my surprise he, however, paid a lot of money as donations and admitted both of them to engineering colleges, he went to extent of selling a house in Ambattur to pay for their education and solve the issue.The cost of my entire college education was much lesser than the one-year payment he made for my younger brothers. I would have been better of in life if he had provided the same education as he did to my younger brothers.

My parents were cruel and partial towards me and my family

Influenced by some Tamil movies he always has a habit of being partial and cruel towards the eldest son and his family, I don't understand the reason for the same. Both of my parents have been very cruel and always partial towards me and my family. Right from the beginning of my marriage life, they had continuously created problems for frivolous issues and had called multiple relatives for discussion and apologised to us in front of them.

Staying with my parents together after marriage to solve the issue

My parents take immense pleasure always in torturing us by calling multiple people and asking us to apologize in front of them. All these were for some silly issues. They have done this multiple times and even once while my wife was pregnant. In 2004. When I was staying with my parents together after marriage, my parents locked our portion on the first floor and asked me, my wife and my son (2 years old) to get out immediately late in the evening and throw our belongings outside.I had no other choice but to stay in my friends' house with my wife and small child. Later I searched for and found a rental house and started living there. My parents were cruel enough to not even give food to my 2-year-old son that night. The issue was she and her wife went to her friend\'s house the previous day evening. Before leaving my wife cooked everything, by 8 pm we came back and she cooked rice alone. My mother started shouting about that and threw us out and our luggage. In 2002 to London and in 2007 to the USA

expenses for their international tour to solve the issue

As an affectionate son, I arranged for them to visit and stay in London, United Kingdom and also to stay with us for two months in the US together with us and visit many cities in the USA for pleasure. I paid the complete expenses for their international tour which includes visa, air tickets, travel insurance, local sightseeing tours and stay at five-star hotels. As part of this, I spent more than 10 lakhs rupees to cover these expenses. He did not pay a single rupee for this international trip. Also while I was working in Singapore and returned I gifted them with gold jewellery.I never boasted about this to my parents or anyone else, however, I am disappointed to hear my father always saying that he shared assets equally every time he visits us.

complaining at the police station to solve the issue

Every time when we call and talk to them while living in the US, they always use to complain that I am not taking care of them even though I have taken an equal share and other younger brothers and their wives are asking why only we should take care of both of you in 2017.While I was staying in the US with family and working there my wife had health issues and had surgery. We decided to relocate to India and I sent my wife and children to India in 2011. I called and informed my parents many times before they left the US and requested to help my wife and family to settle down and find school admission. My parents never bothered to help in any way and my wife who had surgery did all the hard work herself to settle down and find admission at school in 2018.To my surprise, my father and my mother suddenly went to the police station and complained that we are not allowing them in our house. Neither I nor my wife said they should not come to our house. In my absence at the house and when I was out of the country my father behaved so badly and threatened my innocent wife who was suffering from health issues. After complaining at the police station he called my wife several times from outside of the police station and threatened that inspector is sitting just next to me, and he will do what I say. He threatened and abused my wife with several bad words and ordered her to sign a letter and bring and give it immediately at the station. He has threatened police will come and arrest him if you don't do it.

My father and mother used abusive language

My wife staying alone with two children and my husband was out of the country and didn't know what to do and gave a letter9. Later when I came back to India I requested them not to repeat such activities and accepted for them to come and stay in my house even after all the cruel, ill-treatment and abusive behaviour against me and my family members. However, as they went to the police station and threatened my wife who was sick at that time and I was out of the country I stopped talking to both of my parents from that day. Ask your legal doubts about How to solve the issue with my Parents? | Get the best advice and consultation. Top Lawyers in Chennai, best Law firms in IndiaMy father however has told my wife that I care a damn if my son talks to me or notI will come with my wife to your house four months a year and you must maintain us as you have taken an equal share of assets.10. Moreover, My father and mother used abusive language repeatedly again and again on my wife directly and also to me. I can't even mention those words here, they are so third-rated.

my father threatened my wife

My parents have insisted several times to me that I should send my wife back to her house and start living alone. I don't understand why I should do that when she has done no mistakes and taking care of them extremely well.Last time when they come home and after I went to work my father threatened my wife that if the mother-in-law dies before me and if you all come to her death I will take aruvaa and cut everyone.In 2002 in ambattur and 2012 in mogappairHe came to hit me with slippers twice in front of my wife and my children for a silly issue like I made a phone from a landline phone and wasted 1.25 rupees.My family got shattered by his rude attitude for a silly issue and the child got terrified upon seeing this incident. They are setting a bad example for growing children with their rude attitude and bad language.2017 SeptemberDuring ayudha pooja holidays this year(2017), my father brought two of his friends into the house for panchayat without informing us(Stalin and Natarajan). They are saying my father will not change here after so you just adjust. Also, they are supporting all the bad words he said about my wife, and saying nothing wrong with it. I explained to them it is a criminal offense to enter somebody's house without permission and Natarajan came to hit me.

Shame to me in front of other family members

We were in my father in law house in Avadi for school leave they directly came there. (I have the recorded proof for the same)This recent incident has rattled my entire family as third persons also intervened in our house and personal issues. This also caused shame to me in front of other family members and affected my health and work.He has threatened multiple times that he will come and meet the HR of my company and request them to remove me from the job. He and his wife in fact came to my office in Nungambakkam once and then I had to convince them and send them back home.I am struggling with over 52 lakhs of loans in the form of housing, personal and car loan and making EMI payments of over 90,000 Rs per month, with the leftover money I am finding it difficult to meet ends with. He doesn't understand that in the private sector, the job is not permanent and I do not have any pension benefits. He assumes that partial nature he assumes I am leading luxurious life and consistently denying equal share in assets.

Stay in two months in rotation\

I have explained to my father several times in the last 12 years to solve the issue, that he has not given assets equally to me as he always claims. However, my father never listened to me and even though he has given me assets lesser than 50 Lakhs compared to others. For instance, my father gifted one plot each to both of my brothers 6 years ago. In fact one of my brothers was in the US, however, he made arrangements to register the ground in his name in his absence.As usual with his partial nature towards his eldest son, he did not gift it to me to date. My father told me he has framed a policy of \"I shared equally to all three so we will stay in two months in rotation\".I have requested him to discuss and share the details of how he claims he has shared equally when it is not the fact for the last 12 years, but he refused to do it. He bluntly says you have to just believe what I say.

pensioner earning more than 50,000 Rs per month

This shows his attitude to hide details and proves he has indeed not shared his assets equally as he claims to solve the issue. I am not really bothered about it and not behind his money. Meanwhile, I just need a peaceful life and am worried about the safety of my family. I just get frustrated when he repeatedly says I get an equal share and enjoy it.As a pensioner, he is earning more than 50,000 Rs per month and he has not shared a single rupee with me to date. He never let him spend even a single rupee during his stay at our house and saves all the pension money. It is unfair if he is sharing the money with others and not with me.As a son, I am also equally taking care of him equally and he should share assets and cash with me too equally. Once we requested him to buy a milk bottle when he went shopping for my son, later he insisted multiple times to I pay Rs. 12 for it by giving the bill to me never showed any love and affection towards my children and never talks to them over the phone when he is away from our home or even while at home.

How to solve the issue of incidents of ill-treatment?

This is all mental torture for my family and me. After all these incidents of ill-treatment, we are still taking care of my parents EQUALLY like the other two brothers for the last 6 years. Providing them separate rooms, separate TV, AC, and maid to wash clothes and food menu as they ask. They need to have psychiatric counselling to understand the family values better, I am more than willing to sponsor, solve the issue and help them undergo such counselling.I am deeply concerned about the safety and security of my family members. Given the past history of their repeated cruel actions against me based on the past history it is clearly evident that their life is in danger because of their threat and bringing some unknown third parties into the house,I strongly believe that my family members' life is in danger. Many times my father himself has threatened that he will kill me and came to hit me multiple times. I do not want to allow them to stay with my family members as it is a threat to them during the time I am not at home, but as per the law, I am willing to solve the issue take care of the maintenance of my parents by paying my share for their maintenance expenses over and above his pension money.Popular Questions:

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